Life Happens For You, Not To You


 Life Happens For You, Not To You


Speaking directly to the men here: (this also applies to the ladies though!) I know how heavy it feels when your love life doesn’t go the way you hoped. Whether it was someone you dated, a marriage that didn’t last, or a connection that slipped through your hands, you may find yourself battling depression, anxiety, or even questioning your worth. It’s easy to let the thought creep in: “Maybe I’m not good enough.”


But let me tell you right now, that thought is a lie.


Failed relationships don’t mean you’re not good enough. They mean that chapter wasn’t meant for you. The universe, or God if you are faith-driven, has a plan for you. And sometimes that plan doesn’t look neat, clean, or even fair. Sometimes it looks like a complete dumpster fire. But I promise you, there’s purpose in the pain.


The Purpose in Hard Times


The hard times aren’t here to break you; they’re here to build you. They’re here to teach you lessons, sharpen your character, and strip away the pieces of you that no longer serve the man you are becoming. Growth rarely happens in comfort. It happens in the storms, in the heartbreak, and in the nights you wondered if you’d ever feel whole again.


These moments aren’t proof that you’ve failed. They’re opportunities to rise.


The Unexpected Shift


Here’s the thing about life: often when you’re in the thick of your healing, when you’re putting in the work to rediscover yourself, out of nowhere someone will walk into your life. Someone who reminds you of how you deserve to be treated. Someone who shows you that kindness, respect, and love aren’t too much to ask for.


And in that moment, it all makes sense.

You’ll understand why things didn’t work out before. You’ll see how those closed doors weren’t rejections, they were redirections.


The Truth You Need to Hold Onto


Life doesn’t happen to you. It happens for you. Every heartbreak, every setback, every painful lesson is part of the bigger picture. You are not being punished. You’re being prepared.


So if you’re struggling right now, if you feel like the weight of a broken relationship is crushing you, keep going. Trust the process. Trust yourself. Trust that the universe isn’t against you, it’s shaping you.


You are enough.

You are worthy.

And when the time is right, you’ll understand exactly why the path looked the way it did.


Keep Going. It’s the only way to finally have the life you deserve. 

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